FFF and Dating???
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I've noticed that a few members seem to use FFF as a dating site. What do you think of this? Does it bug you?
As the site is explicitly for finding "friends" I don't really agree with it. I, like many other members, am happily coupled up....and my boyfriend knows I come on FFF and chat to others. When someone on here suggests they are looking for romance I feel akward and stupidly GUILTY! I'm not doing anything wrong but suddenly feel like I shouldn't be on this site! I want to be able to come on here without thinking I'm doing anything wrong....do you know what I mean? I don't now if I've explained myself corrently.....it's not like I flirt with anyone or give anyone the wrong idea.... I dunno! Any thoughts? xx 
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In my humble and slightly daft normal opinion I have to agree, perhaps it's because theres another dating site which has a similar name they think that this is the same. It is a nice place to make some online friends, but it's not an out and out dating site. Oh and dont forget that the chatrooms are not a private conversation, you dont have the right to make others feel like they are intruding in there if they pop in.
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It is not intended to be a dating site and keywords that are being advertised via Google search engine deliberately avoid typical dating terms.
I guess with the increasing membership the small proportion that register because they think they can use this as a free dating site is also increasing - as a result I have started to email new arrivals that have a biography which sounds like a search for a date to tell them that most members are married or coupled up on here and if they are seeking a date then the new arrivals are on the wrong site. |
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Yes I agree. I registered on here specifically to find local female friends who are in the same /similar situation as myself and I feel comfortable knowing that it isnt a dating site. Not that I have anything against them but they serve a different purpose and it's good to keep the 2 separate
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Location: Staffordshire
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Mates not dates - simples, as the Meerkats would say
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I am so glad that this website exists. Personally i think it is a fantastic site for those of us that are really looking just to meet new people/friends based purely on hobbies/interests etc. I really hope that the site does not pander to the whims of 'dating site' or ever feel that it has to compete with the likes. Lets face it, there are loads of sites that are aiming or specifically catering for people who are looking for romantic relationships and that is great, but i love this webiste because it is not. I love the platform it gives for people who are genuinely looking for friends of both gender.
I personally have encountered some men that are using this for the purpose that it was not created for and have had to read between the lines. |
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 no dating for me.friends,yes.
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Could not agree more with Museangel! In an age of compromising social networking sites & the upset they can cause (speaking from first hand experience dealing with husband!!) I have received so much from 'fff' in terms of support, light-hearted chats, & even true friendships. Long may it continue!
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As you know FFF will go through a number of changes and additions this year and the recent survey sought to get input from the members too. However, I categorically want to state that dating per se will not be facilitated, not even as a separate branch which to my mind opens the door to have daters creep in in even bigger numbers. The nature of dating is that it is goal orientated and that those who are looking for a "significant half" have a complex list they compare against profile lists and the whole atmosphere turns into something I would sum up as "Smithfield Meat Market": at the meat market you'd select a nice bit of beef with firm flank, good colour and the right weight for the right price and sadly dating doesn't go all that different.
We are currently going through the final stages of a complete re-write of the site and we are planning to upload this new version on 15 April. Initially, you will not see any difference, for the changes are under the bonnet and will be stable, fast loading and easily updated in future. We are going to address the chatroom and 1-2-1 system in this rewrite though so your feedback on that will be very much welcome, when it's up. After that we will work towards installing a community blog and something that makes events easier to manage, so we can help members to host Eats Meets that bit better and lay on walks and events supported by third parties. |
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 Excellent response Adminfish... ...i await the changes with baited breath, especially the new, improved 121 and Eats Meets facility!!
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hooray, at last i have found a friendship site and im very pleased its going to stay that way...i am looking forward to making some friends to exchange emails with and also make new friends in my local area..
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In total agreement of what has been said,am heartily sick of all these intrusions into what is really a Site based on making new friends only.
However there still remains this same old beef about folk using and abusing the system,writing just merely one liners and retreating dismally into the background,others only using the Site to gain your profile and start up a friendship,but then quickly demanding other addresses,by passing this very Site which has been instrumental in getting the 2 people together initially,it is very distressing to say the least.As for the very many that simply are here today.......and a few weeks(if one is lucky!!) and then vamoose off the face of the earth!!! Hopefully,fingers firmly crossed,the new up dated version will be successful in ironing out many of these glitches. Long live the Site and all those that sail with it!! |
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it doesn't bother me either way - I joined simply to make e-friends to email at those lonely times and that's exactly what I've got. I realise I ought to offer more in the way of forum posts and chat but life's not easy at the moment and I don't often have time.
As for dating - if there's a blues loving vegetarian Dutch speaker of my age who's in to animal rescue volunteering and who talks to cats, dogs and chickens, could he please step forward now... 
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Saskia, that was a breath of fresh air and made me laugh.
Re FFF and dating: I think those looking to use FFF as a dating site, will be sorely disappointed, I'm sure after enough rebuttals they will chose to move on else where.
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Yes I agree with Saskia and Rach1812. I think people realise their mistake very quicky.
However,if people do happen to meet a partner on this site after being friends -then great. We are all here to make friends after all. Of course it goes without saying that this is a friendship site and not a dating site. |
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