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Susanne

Member Posts: 1177 Location: Surrey Offline

Monday 26th September 2011, 4:29 PM BST

I share GardenPot's perspective as someone who has children and who cannot think them away again. I have learnt to be a parent and have come to terms with its restrictions and I am glad that I have my sons. It seems, anyone who has children learns to love them and takes this new life style as their preferred one.

We are living at a time though where we can control whether or not we have a baby and we have the agony of decision making. In the case of kazara1001's brother his argument of not being able to afford a second one is as valid as any other. At least the brother knows his priorities in life and it is important to him to be able to spend for reasons other than children.

One thing I always remember is a sketch by Billy Conolly, essentially about the fact that 50% of the population is born for no particular plan or reason: they were an accident. And if an accident is a reason for being here, then other reasons ought to be just as valid.

Pen2011

Member Posts: 28 Location: Gloucestershire Offline

Monday 26th September 2011, 4:41 PM BST

I think it's a very personal decision. I'm glad I had my daughter at 23 as she is growing up fast and I feel like I've still got time to live my own life before old age. If people look at things too logically, particularly in regard to cost, they'll never have children! We managed on a very low income (£7,000) in 2009 due to redundancy, but you get by when you have to.

I don't think anyone should have children because they're expected to and I also think that having 1 child is perfectly acceptable. I'd like to think my daughter is well adjusted - she's very grown up (which is probably due to being an only child) but has friends her own age too.

No Longer A Member

Member Posts: 41 Offline

Saturday 12th November 2011, 7:16 PM GMT

This time last year i was like NO WAY! I don't want kids, i don't want marriage etc and now i want the whole thing! The Marriage, The Kids (4 lol) and The Big House. I was adamant that there was no way i would have kids and i was like that from 18 up until now. The biological clock will start ticking when you least expect it and i was told that but said NO i know what i do and do not want. My biological clock is ticking and i can even hear it!! LOL xx

EvilMonkey

Member Posts: 69 Location: West Midlands Offline

Monday 14th November 2011, 1:41 PM GMT

its a strange thing isnt it. I am 31 and happily married. My sister is 28, and she now has a 6 month old. Me and my wife have decided to hang fire for a child for a variety of reasons. My sister has got it into her head now that because she has a child I must have one, and I am making a big mistake by not having one yet! Normally, I shrug it off, but a few weeks ago her and my mum were both drilling into me how I was making a mistake. I brushed it off at the time, but thinking about it afterwards, I was furious. How dare they tell me I am living my life wrong! I could understand if I was a drug addict or something, but because I don't want kids yet! Anyway, I have calmed down since then, but I know that if they carry on like this I am probably going to fall out with them, because it can get too much.

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Susanne Member Posts: 1177 Location: Surrey Offline	Monday 26th September 2011, 4:29 PM BST I share GardenPot's perspective as someone who has children and who cannot think them away again. I have learnt to be a parent and have come to terms with its restrictions and I am glad that I have my sons. It seems, anyone who has children learns to love them and takes this new life style as their preferred one. We are living at a time though where we can control whether or not we have a baby and we have the agony of decision making. In the case of kazara1001's brother his argument of not being able to afford a second one is as valid as any other. At least the brother knows his priorities in life and it is important to him to be able to spend for reasons other than children. One thing I always remember is a sketch by Billy Conolly, essentially about the fact that 50% of the population is born for no particular plan or reason: they were an accident. And if an accident is a reason for being here, then other reasons ought to be just as valid.


Pen2011 Member Posts: 28 Location: Gloucestershire Offline	Monday 26th September 2011, 4:41 PM BST I think it's a very personal decision. I'm glad I had my daughter at 23 as she is growing up fast and I feel like I've still got time to live my own life before old age. If people look at things too logically, particularly in regard to cost, they'll never have children! We managed on a very low income (£7,000) in 2009 due to redundancy, but you get by when you have to. I don't think anyone should have children because they're expected to and I also think that having 1 child is perfectly acceptable. I'd like to think my daughter is well adjusted - she's very grown up (which is probably due to being an only child) but has friends her own age too.


No Longer A Member Member Posts: 41 Offline	Saturday 12th November 2011, 7:16 PM GMT This time last year i was like NO WAY! I don't want kids, i don't want marriage etc and now i want the whole thing! The Marriage, The Kids (4 lol) and The Big House. I was adamant that there was no way i would have kids and i was like that from 18 up until now. The biological clock will start ticking when you least expect it and i was told that but said NO i know what i do and do not want. My biological clock is ticking and i can even hear it!! LOL xx




EvilMonkey Member Posts: 69 Location: West Midlands Offline	Monday 14th November 2011, 1:41 PM GMT its a strange thing isnt it. I am 31 and happily married. My sister is 28, and she now has a 6 month old. Me and my wife have decided to hang fire for a child for a variety of reasons. My sister has got it into her head now that because she has a child I must have one, and I am making a big mistake by not having one yet! Normally, I shrug it off, but a few weeks ago her and my mum were both drilling into me how I was making a mistake. I brushed it off at the time, but thinking about it afterwards, I was furious. How dare they tell me I am living my life wrong! I could understand if I was a drug addict or something, but because I don't want kids yet! Anyway, I have calmed down since then, but I know that if they carry on like this I am probably going to fall out with them, because it can get too much.