Fishing For A Friend

Yep i hear you,
couldnt agree more mate,
i read these profiles about 'genuingly looking to widen their social group, and miss having people to catch up with, etc, etc....'
then they contact me, or i contact them; we exchange like two emails then i think i must have said something to upset them as thats the last i ever hear from alot of people.....
as you said not 'everyone' on here is like that, definatley not as ive met some really nice people threw this and weve met up and stayed intouch, but yes recently ive had about 4 or 5 contacts and i respond back after their initial one and then thats it lol.....

but nah dont take it personally with any of these sort of sites you will have your genuine people and you will have your time waisters,
i do love this site though and would recommend it to anyone, but yes i agree theres a few no hopers out there that shouldnt bother people if their not gonna write more then one email huh.....

Just that we are all different...and wanting different things, so just be yourself and you'll come across one or two that you will get along with... just takes time not to mention effort!!

As chops2 says, don't give up. And you are only saying what others have felt, so it's not you chuck, keep smiling.

pheww, was starting to think it was something i was saying, i never seem to get anything back either,, come to think of it, i didnt get that many initial responses, apart from men, hmmm ( sorry guys, but does seem strange, espec with some of the responses i got).
im a bit shy, and not sure wot to say, so only sent out a couple of mails, and nothing bk from them. maybe people were bored over the xmas/new years hols, then changed their minds.
so are people on here actualy trying to make friends, or do they just think its a good idea to fill out a profile , then go no further ?
but i totaly agree, the most disheartening thing is responding to a mail thats been send to you, then getting nothing bk after.
< slowely giving up x

Hello!

Don't take it personally x x x
Plenty more fish out there! lol

A x x

there are all sorts of people on here it is a friendship site suppossed to be but everyone is looking for something differant ,but if you keep on you will get one that will become your friend but some times that takes a bit of time so dont give up yea dont give up and good luck. :

Thanks again guys for your input,
this is quite interesting hearing everyones views on it,
glad to see it wasnt just me going crazy or something lol.....

o hey thats an interesting point actually that you made watfordmag.
Yeah the age thing is another point actually,
glad you mentioned,
as i am 29 quickly approaching 30 and i feel like although id love to i couldnt really contact anyone that is around 36+as they may get a little funny and think what i could possibly have in common with someone her age,

but yet im incredably mature for my age infact lol-my husband calls me his 'old'lady even though hes 10 years older then me.....

and come to think of it id actually have more incommon with people over 30 as i feel that maybe people in their 20's may find me a little conservative lol....
but yeah, another interesting point made.

What does everyone else think on the age front?
as watfordmag said as long as its 'within reason' should their be any reason why people particularly dont want to hear from a certain age group of others?

for example let me put it to you; i am 29yr female looking for female frineds to widen my social group, chat about the world/economics/life/etc over coffee/lunches/etc, is their any one over the age of 34+ that things that if they heard from someone my age that immdeiatley they would be like 'o nah shes fare too young to have anything in common with me'
and vice versa, is there anyone around 22-25 that would be like 'o her profile says she doesnt drink, smoke do clubbing or pubbing gosh she sounds like a bore lol'

....not to say that people in young pepole in their 20's only enjoy geting off their faces at clubs lol- am genuingly just interested in loads of different view points as this is a very interesteing subject we've started so id like to keep it going......

Simple answer..... you can't. I do find that you can learn quite a lot from people by what they don't tell you as well as what they do.

With regard to watfordmag's question about does age matter when corresponding if you share the same interests, no of course it doesn't. You learn from people of all ages and experience. I'm sure most of us have a variety of friends that vary in age, its what makes life and friendships interesting.