Why do fishes drop u aline & thn drop u al2gether?
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Hi everyone,
I must admit, I do not always come back to this site, I totally forgot about it a few times, so I am perhaps guilty of not contacting people, so I assume there are more like me. Also, people may just chicken out if they have arranged to meet someone, its a big big thing for some people, that is why they are on here, to make friends, they may be shy, lack confidence etc. On having platonic opposite sex friends, I totally agree that it is possible, however, I spoke to a man on here last week, on the chat thing, and right away he asked why I was talking to him when I am married and looking for female friends, and now he is no longer a member!!! Anyway, I would love to hear from anyone, before th'internet, many moons ago, when I was a young girl, I had many many pen friends from all over the world. So I live talking to people. Chris |
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I saw a woman on line last week and read her profile cause she lived near me. At that time it said she wanted to hear from other ladies so i did'nt contact her which i thought was the right thing to do. However her current profile doesn't say "ladies only". Then she invited me to chat at which time her profile still said ladies and i asked in all innocence why she'd contacted me. No offence intended but seems like some taken. I felt rather bad irrespective of where any misunderstanding, if any lay. Hoped a friendship might develop but we can't always get it right..
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That seems a very familiar story Curvedair, maybe the lady you were talking to changed her profile because she changed her mind about contact from ladies only?
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Maybe if We DONT Judge People So Quickly on their Profile it May Help!
Maybe the Lady in Question wanted/Felt safer talking to Female initially Until She Built up Her Confidence on the Site. I Would Have taken it as A Compliment! |
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Can be a distance thing or they don't think you have enough in common. I have had it done to me but have done it to people also.
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Like the initial post from "no longer a member" I do find it puzzling if someone gets in touch, you reply, then zilch; as surely there has been no time to form a rounded opinion; unless they were after something you clearly weren't offering. It can also leave you feeling somewhat bemused when someone you have apparently been getting on well with suddenly stops e-mailing.
One of my contacts stopped e-mailing as they were becoming a bit flirtatious(trust me, it wasn't very suttle); I didn't recipricate, but just chatted as normal, they soon ceased contact, which was a shame as I liked them as a friend. I would never think badly of someone for breaking contact however; as I must confess, I have stopped e-mailing one or two people in the past. This was either because they wrote, as has been mentioned, one or two lines; or they are telling me the same things for the third time, or not refering to anything I've said; which leaves one feeling they aren't really interested. It may be of course that it becomes obvious that you just aren't suited as friends for whatever reason. Do you then tell them how you feel and maybe rescue the friendship, or take the easier option and stop contact? As I've been "dumped" and done the "dumping"(there must be a better term than that but I can't think of one just now); I can only conclude it is a normal part of relationships, internet based or otherwise, and not something to get hung up on. 
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Not all but a lot of people on this site seem to be so rude and do that to me as well.
Talking fine one minute then silence and nothing the next. Seems weird, I am not sure what some people are really looking for. |
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